Home care is good, so use it

Families who are caring for a loved one can sometimes struggle to know when it is the right time is to ask for help. Quite often I find that families leave it too late, and they are almost on their knees with exhaustion or the stress of juggling work, children and a busy life by […]

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FREE Family and Carer Information Event

  Q: When should I start talking to my parents about their future care thoughts and wishes? Q: I’ve promised my mum I wouldn’t put her in a home, but now she needs more care than I can give her and I’m exhausted. What should I do? It’s four weeks now until my first I’m […]

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Making the most of life!

You want your mum to live life to the full, to be sociable and, most of all, to be happy. So why doesn’t she seem to want the same thing? It’s difficult and frustrating for family carers when their mum loses motivation to go out as they used to, or just outright refuses to leave […]

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Prepare for the time of your life!

The arrival of a new baby leads to 9 months of physical and practical preparation. It’s tough to manage a new baby on your own so being able to afford to choose what you want to buy whilst getting the right equipment, support and advice can make a huge difference to the wellbeing of the […]

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How can we live to be 100 and be happy!?

If you are over 50 years of age, I bet I’ve got your attention now! Unfortunately, I don’t have the answer to that or else I’d be a very rich woman indeed!   I suspect we all know the secret for living longer. The NHS is keen to give us guidance on this; eat well and […]

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I'm working with a client currently who will be having a meeting soon with her mum's new social worker. She's having difficulty getting her concerns across because she says 'dad has got his head in the sand and wont acknowledge that he can't cope and is struggling with her care at the moment.'
Have you had to get in touch with your local authority social services department for help with an ageing or ill relative?
How was your experience?
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Live in care is definitely a good alternative to residential care. If you want to talk through your situation and see if live in care could work for you, please contact me sally@imworriedaboutmum.com or tel 07923184316. There’s lots of useful information on my website tooLive-in care for couples is a more economical option compared to care homes. For an additional weekly fee of just £200, compared with a doubling of costs for two beds in a care home, you and your loved get to maintain control of your life together and stay at your own home full of joyful memories and surrounded by your family and pets. More: bit.ly/2vK22La ... See MoreSee Less

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I thought I'd introduce myself properly to those of you I haven't met. I'm a social care consultant/social worker in Cheshire. People often ask what that actually means which is difficult for me to explain - the support I offer is different for every person because every person is different! What I can say is that I work directly with sons and daughters who are supporting a loved one, whether that's an older person, or someone with mental or physical health issues or a learning disability and provide I information, advice and any emotional and hands on support they may need.

Actually, if you have used my services, it would be useful if you could share your experience so that other people know what you found most helpful about my support. If you haven't used my services, why not comment below and ask any questions you might have. If your question is private and personal, send me a message (contact details below) and I can add you to the group where my followers are all lovely people who understand what you are going through and can offer you support and good advice.

Just to be clear, I don't have any connection with social services but I am a registered and qualified social worker so I have a lot of experience and information to share.

You can contact me via this page, on my mobile tel 07923 184316, or email me on sally@imworriedaboutmum.com
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Do you or anyone you know feel like this?
Remember that I’m always here to talk in confidence and share your burden
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I recently had a conversation with a friend about her Dad, who is stubborn and fiercely independent. She could see he was struggling and needed help, but didn’t know how to broach the subject without upsetting him.

I spoke to her yesterday and she said that after an accident involving her Dad, a step ladder, a hedge trimmer, a trip to A&E and several stitches, she definitely needed my help to tell him her concerns.

It’s so difficult having these conversations with our parents. My friend doesn't want to upset her Dad or take away his dignity but she wants him to be safe. So how do you have that conversation sensitively?

If you feel a relative isn’t coping in some way, you can start by asking how they’ve been managing running the house rather than jumping in and telling them what you think is best. Help them weigh up the pros and cons of getting help rather than trying to do it on their own and putting themselves at risk. Keep returning to the subject, don’t let them fob you off. If you need support to do this, please contact me on 07923184316 or via my website www.imworriedaboutmum.com
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The right adaptations and equipment can keep a family member safe, independent and as mobile as possible in their own home and local community where they belong.

If you are thinking about investing in this on their behalf, make sure you get the right advice before you make an expensive mistake. An independent social worker can assess your loved one’s support needs in their own home, and explain common risk factors and options which you may not be aware of.
Don’t waste your money on equipment which is not suitable because this will only remain unused and gathering dust in the corner.

If you aren’t sure what your loved one may be entitled to in terms of funded aids and adaptations, ask me or find out from their GP or local council before you pay out.

Contact me on 07923184316 or via my website: www.imworriedaboutmum.com
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As I touched on yesterday, loneliness and isolation are increasing in the UK’s ageing population. If you think someone you know is struggling on their own, there are ways you can help.

Families can help by encouraging their loved one to accept extra support, and to build their confidence and trust in other people. The right carer will reassure them when they are anxious, and give them a reason to get up in the morning. Most importantly, the right carer will have them looking forward to the day ahead, whilst monitoring the situation when you can’t be there.

Don’t put pressure on yourself and expect to be able to do this all yourself. Your role is to be the best son or daughter you can to them, and to have quality time together being just this. You can do this by not being their full-time carer.

If you need help or guidance, finding the right care agency, I’m here for you. Contact me on 07923184316 or via my website: www.imworriedaboutmum.com
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Loneliness is horrible, we all know that. More than 1.2 million people in the UK are desperately lonely, so it's likely we all know, or care about, someone who feels lonely.

When you live on your own, the days can merge into one long, dreary week. You can find yourself willing away the hours until bedtime, or wishing away the days between appointments or visits. Not wanting to be a bother to the people who you love the most. Forgetting that they would be devastated if they knew that you felt lonely.

If your loved one is isolated and struggling with loneliness, there are ways you can help. Sometimes people shut themselves away because they are ashamed or self-conscious about the state of their home. It’s important to find a care agency that will provide personal care, and to help your loved one with laundry and cleaning their home. Someone that will help them to build their self-respect again.

Do you know someone who is living alone? Would you like help and advice on how to support them? Contact me on 07923184316 or via my website:
www.imworriedaboutmum.com
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When a crisis hits your family and a loved one needs help, who can you turn to?

Your local social services may help but, as we all know, they have high demand and limited resources, and there are many gaps in the system.

An independent social worker - like me - can help your family with information specific to your situation and give you practical and emotional support when you need it most, and not just in office hours.

Is there a family situation I can help you with now that is worrying you? Contact me via my website or by contacting me on 07923184316.

www.imworriedaboutmum.com
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When we know there is a baby on the way, planning begins almost immediately, even though it’s still 9 months away. So why don't we show the same level of attention when it comes to planning for our parents’ inevitable old age?

Why don’t we ask ourselves:
“How will my mum cope on her own if my dad dies?
“Who will be there to help my mum manage the day to day stuff in life?”
“Will mum expect it to be me?”
“If so, can I commit to that?”

When will you start to think about your parents’ future and the implications it has for yours? Can I help you to do this?
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You may be surprised to hear that the NHS define old age at 60 years and over. I don’t think we pay much attention to ageing in ourselves or in our parents, it happens without us realising. Often, we don’t want to accept that mum or dad is getting older or beginning to struggle but burying our heads in the sand, or allowing them do this, means running the risk that we are not prepared. If your mum has a fall out of the blue, and suddenly your family is in full blown crisis mode, what will you do?

I think preparation and prevention are both key. We can’t always prevent bad things from happening, but we can take measures to reduce the likelihood and make sure we are prepared for whatever the future holds. Take time this week to pay attention: are your parents beginning to struggle with little things? Is there anything that’s worrying them, or you? Contact me via my website or by contacting me on 07923184316.
www.imworriedaboutmum.com
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4 weeks ago

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Who wouldn’t want a pony party!?Care home visits 🏡

Why not book a pony to visit your residential home over summer 🌞 we can go in the garden or even inside the home.

We do a special price for care home visits during the week days so please get in touch 😁
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